Children: Two - an almost 3-year-old son, and 10-month-old daughter
Industry: Marketing / SAHM
How would you best describe yourself?
Chief Doer of Everything (well... almost!)
How has becoming a parent changed your perception of work and career and what surprised you the most?
Climbing the corporate ladder was something I always wanted to do, but I also always envisioned owning my own business. I've always had a creative niggle within me & I've taken on so many courses to figure out what I 'want to do' that I've lost count! Ambition used to be a key trigger for me within the corporate environment, and since I've become a parent, I have zero aspirations to head back into that world and 'prove' myself. Becoming a mother has created a tremendous shift within me. It's no longer about 'proving myself;' it's about showing my children that success is no accident and that you really can go after your dreams - despite what anyone thinks of them, or your capabilities. My biggest surprise was that I found I was way busier once I became a parent (and still am), compared to beforehand. Mothers truly are amazing!
What advice would you give your younger self about starting a family?
Knowledge is power. Ask all the questions you can. Listen to others' stories and soak things in. Of course, you'll have a different experience, of course, your baby will be different... But if there's ONE thing that you pick up that can help you, it could make ALL the difference! Plus, the other tips could be helpful for others! Us mummas need to support each other as much as possible.
What has been your biggest challenge in motherhood to date? How have you overcome this?
My biggest challenge was surviving the first 3months post the birth of my first child (namely the Fourth Trimester). I really struggled as I thought I was prepared for entering motherhood having attended the antenatal classes and hypnobirthing classes, but that really just prepared me for the birth. There is nothing like the shock a first-time mother experiences. I'm now creating a course based on The Fourth Trimester, designed with experts in their fields in relation to motherhood, to better prepare expectant mothers post-birth - to give them the tools to be able to navigate this new world they've entered so they don't have to struggle as I did. You undergo such a transformation, physically and mentally, that you really need a supportive start to your journey to ensure it's a positive and joyful beginning - for you and baby.
What are your strategies to manage the juggle of career and family?
My children are in daycare part-time, and I call on family to support when possible (I know how fortunate I am to have this support!). I consciously encourage myself to be present in the moment - when I'm with the kids, BE with the kids. I try to work once they're in bed, or do my phone calls/book appointments while driving (thanks Bluetooth!). Often the kids are lugged around while I'm fulfilling errands, but I'm still engaged with them overall. Plus pack snacks the night before, always have snacks in the car!
What do you do for self-care?
Walking along our beautiful trail walk nearby home. Journaling, blogging - getting the thoughts out of my head and onto paper. Enjoying a coffee in the sun.