Industry: Fertility Coaching & Human Resources
How would you best describe yourself?
I'm a mama of twin girls and wife to my amazing husband. I work full time in a corporate Human Resources job and I run a fertility coaching business as well. When I'm not with my family or supporting my clients on their infertility journey, I love to cook, bake, do DIY home projects, and spend time outside.
How has becoming a parent changed your perception of work and career and what surprised you the most?
Before I had my girls I was very focused on my career - getting promoted every year or so. It was my life. After 9 rounds of fertility treatments we finally conceived our girls and my whole perspective changed. I wanted to spend my days helping others achieve their dreams of having a family, I wanted to use my skills to serve others. I didn't want to spend my days commuting to and from work and living for the weekends/vacations.
What surprised me most was that my desire to have flexibility with my schedule, to spend time with my kids, and to serve others has led me down the path of entrepreneurship. I never thought I'd own my own business but here I am and I am loving it!
What advice would you give your younger self about starting a family?
Your path to parenthood won't look like anyone else's. It will be hard, exhausting, traumatic, and emotional. When you are in it, you will struggle to believe you will ever have children of your own. But when you do, it will all be worth it and your own infertility journey will make a huge impact on other people's lives as well. Hang in there - parenting is hard but it is amazing too.
What has been your biggest challenge in motherhood to date? How have you overcome this?
The biggest challenge in motherhood for me is feeling guilty that being a mom is hard. Let's be honest - having two four year olds both crying at the same time because they can't open the toothpaste or they hate their school uniform sucks. It isn't always fun but because I worked hard to have my children and I know of so many who would give anything to have children of their own those feelings of not liking being a mom sometimes is a challenge.
I have worked hard to give myself grace, to remember that we cannot compare hard. What is hard for me, may not be hard for you and vice versa. And that is okay. Frustration and gratitude can and do co-exist. Remembering these things in the heat of a meltdown has helped me with the guilt.
What are your strategies to manage the juggle of career and family?
I put myself first. This means getting up early, before everyone else, to read, journal, and workout. This allows me to 1) accomplish something for me before the day starts and 2) helps me start the day knowing I did what was best for me first. Then, it is all about time blocking - I schedule time for my corporate job, working with clients, running my business, and even block time for my husband and kids. When I'm in a time block, I am fully focused on that thing. This helps me not feel overwhelmed. Lastly, having a strong relationship with my husband and sharing the responsibilities of the household with him.
What do you do for self-care?
I have a morning routine that I do six days per week (get up, read my affirmations, workout). I also try to find time to see friends (when it is easier to do) and I do a spa day or girls weekend one a year.