Meeting our children's emotional needs

We are all asking ourselves “how am I going to manage to homeschool?” This is on top of everything else going on in our lives at the moment before we even start thinking about the teaching aspect.

We need to be able to help ourselves before we can help our children. This isn’t meant to sound selfish, but it can be likened to putting on your oxygen mask before your child’s mask. We need to work out for ourselves the situation and how we will make it work before we meet the emotional needs of our children. This extends into topics such as teaching.

There is a theory called “Maslow's hierarchy of needs” and the bottom level is physiological – whereby the basic needs are met such as food, shelter, air, water & clothing. The next level, Safety, ensures personal safety, employment, health, resources & property. Importantly, if we don't meet these base needs, we can't do anything else as a human being, and that goes from childhood right up to adulthood.

At the moment, many aspects of your life may all feel a little uncertain and that is because our basic needs aren’t being met. Rest assured, we are all on the same side, we don't know what's going on. Everything will eventually be ok.

As adults, we can process these new situations a little easier and muddle our way through it. Whereas our children will process things differently, that's when you are going to see children potentially acting out by throwing or tantrums and that is because by doing those things it is something they can control.

This week as some states start term 2 before you consider doing anything educational, your focus should be on meeting those base levels of needs.

As Tiffany from Inspire.Learn.Teach explains on this week's episode of the Working Mumma podcast "during this time, we need to focus first on the needs of our children". She suggests that we remove any expectations of ourselves and our children and don't listen to your inner voice “I need to be doing this, I should be doing this”. What is most important early on is meeting the emotional needs of your children and being prepared to adapt as necessary. This will look different for every child and that is ok. With this, you will be creating a learning environment that they feel comfortable in and everyone will grow from the experience.

By allowing our children to feel safe and secure, we are meeting their needs. Over time, you will all get used to the new set up, but don't set goals for this. Focus on what works best for you and your family.

Best of luck mumma, you’ve got this.

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