Becs Matthews

Children: 1

Industry: Retail & Consumer Durables

How would you best describe yourself?

Relaxed. Easy Going. Approachable. Positive. Real.

How has becoming a parent changed your perception of work and career and what surprised you the most?

I have always been very ambitious and driven at work and have climbed the corporate ladder very fast since leaving uni, however my desire to keep climbing has definitely taken a backwards step since becoming a mum. My priorities have changed and my focus has shifted.

I still enjoy work and the stimulation (and private bathroom breaks!) it brings, but I find myself counting down the minutes till I get to leave everyday so I can return home to my most important role, being a mum.

I have a new found appreciation for working mums and admire all women who manage to juggle work and raising a family.

What advice would you give your younger self about starting a family?

Never doubt yourself, you’ve absolutely got this.

What has been your biggest challenge so far across the stages of pregnancy / leave / returning to work?  How have you overcome this?

I have had so many people tell me that “women can’t have it all”.

I cringe when I hear this because I don’t want it to be true and as I try to juggle life and work and prove these people wrong, there have definitely been challenging days where I have believed it. Stress and sleep deprivation will do that do you, am I right?

But I am learning that this statement is only as true as I let it be. It’s easy to be hard on myself and feel like I’m failing because I’m not meeting societies expectations “of it all”, especially on those stressful and sleep deprived days, but if I’m fair and honest with myself and the fact that the demands of motherhood and work are changing, then redefining what “having it all” is needed too. Until MY expectations about what “all of it” is, become realistic and become mine, then there will always be some truth to the statement.

What strategies / initiatives do you use to help you manage the juggle of being a Working Mumma and family?

Lists and Routine.